Do You Have to Do That?

“Any girl can be glamorous. All you have to do is stand still and look stupid.” – Hedy Lamarr

.-= Perhaps that is exactly what all these women want to do? Look glamorous? What am I referring to? I am speaking of the trend of women taking their pictures with their tongues out, or with those ridiculous “duck lips”. Young girls were doing it, now I see women who are supposed to be more mature, even in their 30’s doing it. Really?

Now before I go too far… ya right… I always go too far. Some women will comment on the quote above wondering who the hell is Hedy Lamarr anyways. Hedy was an Austrian born actress and inventor. A brilliant woman and one of the most beautiful women in the world. Sadly, she is no longer with us, but you should look her up … we may not have had cell phones without her.

Anyways, this tongues out trend, not sure what will come next. Miley Cyrus did it throughout an entire performance. Not only did she look stupid, it was disgusting to watch. I suppose there are many reasons why someone would pose for a picture like this. Isn’t there? What are they trying to say? “Hey! Look at me! I’m a Rock Star!” No, you really are not and you don’t even look close. “Hey! I just want to look like a Rock Star and everyone else is doing it!” Again, you really don’t look anything like one, and everyone else could be doing many things. Perhaps it is time to do something for yourself and stop trying to COPY everyone else. Oh, I know… “Hey! I have a long tongue so guys / ladies, take a look!” Really? Perhaps it’s, “I’m really drunk!”, “This is disgusting!”, “Tongues are funny looking so here is mine!”, “I really hate to smile!”  Could be all these things, but I think deep down it may be more like, “I’m insecure and don;t like to appear attractive.”

These are not pictures being taken for ones own personal use. They are pictures being share with friends, family, and the world. Profile pictures meant to best represent who you are. I admit, that every once and awhile, we all take photos of ourselves and others being silly and making faces. It can be funny.  Posing every single time with your tongue out though? Not funny. Not attractive. Hopefully, not the best representation of yourself. And the duck lips? You do not look like your pouting or like you are ready for a kiss… you look like a DUCK!

Advertising and marketing people are starting to use images of women who pose like this, because they think it has something to do with sex. Perhaps it does, but it sure as hell is not sexy. Why would they think that? Well, there is psychology professor at the University of San Francisco who studies nonverbal communication named Maureen O’Sullivan who states, “The mouth is a sexual orifice from a young age.” She says that these images are not so innocent and believes the gesture of sticking out one’s tongue can have multiple meanings. It can be an act of rudeness, disgust, playfulness or outright sexual provocation.

I say it doesn’t matter. Do what you want to do, however, you should know that it is important to look your best. To give a good impression. Sticking out your tongue in all those pictures, or puckering your lips up to look like a duck, is NOT SEXY. It looks stupid and makes you look less than you are, or at least I hope it is less than you are. Hedy was a beautiful woman, and perhaps she had a look of mock stupidity in some poses but her eyes told the real story. You would not see a picture of a LADY with her tongue sticking out.

Not being sexist on this as I also think guys taking selfies in a mirror as they flex or blow kisses is just as bad. But not seeing as much of that as I am of the … well this …

– Deacon Blues (deaconbluez)
June 23rd, 2014